Thanks! This one is so helpful in relationships. My couples clients always have a lightbulb moment when we talk about this. There are lots of internal processors married to external processors!
Pam and Anna, you are the best. Your work has helped me tremendously in my parenting, unschooling years, and personal relationships. I am so grateful for you both. And yes, I am one of those external processors married to an internal processor. :) Both my kids are also external processors. My husband is a patient saint :)
I've been unschooling for 16 years and read so much of your work Pam, and many others - but this was one of the biggest Aha! moments I've had. I am definitely an external processor and my youngest is an internal processor - all of our conversations and the look he gives me when I jump in and start trying to help him plan things suddenly make sense. I've kind of known this stuff theoretically but suddenly it all became clear and relevant and I can see it making big changes in how I relate to my son and my husband and others in my life
Hi, Annie! That's so cool! It really is such a fundamental difference, isn't it? And recognizing it in action can help so much as we navigate the day to day of our relationships.
This is so spot on. Thank you :)
Thanks! This one is so helpful in relationships. My couples clients always have a lightbulb moment when we talk about this. There are lots of internal processors married to external processors!
So glad it resonated, Meagan! :-)
Pam and Anna, you are the best. Your work has helped me tremendously in my parenting, unschooling years, and personal relationships. I am so grateful for you both. And yes, I am one of those external processors married to an internal processor. :) Both my kids are also external processors. My husband is a patient saint :)
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I've been unschooling for 16 years and read so much of your work Pam, and many others - but this was one of the biggest Aha! moments I've had. I am definitely an external processor and my youngest is an internal processor - all of our conversations and the look he gives me when I jump in and start trying to help him plan things suddenly make sense. I've kind of known this stuff theoretically but suddenly it all became clear and relevant and I can see it making big changes in how I relate to my son and my husband and others in my life
Thank you!!!!!
I'm glad it resonated! It's such a helpful piece to understand for all of our relationships.
I mentioned it to my youngest (the internal processor) and he also had a lightbulb moment and said that a whole lot of things now made sense
Hi, Annie! That's so cool! It really is such a fundamental difference, isn't it? And recognizing it in action can help so much as we navigate the day to day of our relationships.
I love that!! Thanks so much for sharing!